Let’s celebrate love! Happy Valentine’ Day!
My recent participation in Heads or Tails: Love has brought out a lot of thoughts on love, from love at first sight in Linda’s post to love as a choice from Dawn’s post.
Love at First Sight
I think there is such a thing as love at first sight, the kind of love that can end up in marriage, if the love survives the roller coaster ride. The problem with love at first sight is that the love doesn’t usually stay after the getting-to-know part. It is, afterall, love just at first sight.
I believe that,
love is a feeling, that really nice feeling
that makes you smile at the thought of the beloved;
should flow naturally, should not be forced.
but love as a feeling, with its highs and lows,
is a roller coaster ride.
so love, should be, must also be a commitment,
a choice, a decision to love even more
when the feeling of love is at low.
It wasn’t love at first sight when I met dear hubby. But it didn’t take long to fall in love with him, and I love him even more when I married him. But our marriage, our love is not perfect. There are highs and lows. At low, remembering our commitment, deciding, choosing to love him so much more really eases the marriage.
Love is such a complicated thing. You have to be a child to see love in its purest, deepest and untainted form. Anna posted these definitions of love as told by children. These are my favorites:
“When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different. You just know that your name is safe in their mouth.” -Billy, age 4
This thought on love was simply amazing!
“Love is what’s in the room with you at Christmas if you stop opening presents and listen.” – Bobby, Age 7
How deep was that?!
And the story about the most caring boy just breaks my heart:
Author and lecturer Leo Buscaglia once talked about a contest he was asked to judge. The purpose of the contest was to find the most caring child… The winner was a four year old child whose next door neighbor was an elderly gentleman who had recently lost his wife. Upon seeing the man cry, the little boy went into the old gentleman’s yard, climbed onto his lap, and just sat there. When his Mother asked what he had said to the neighbor, the little boy said, “Nothing, I just helped him cry.”